In the next five weeks, we will talk through women’s insecurities, and how to change our view on what or who we think we are. The world tells us we have to look or act a certain way to fit in. Sometimes the people around us tell us our flaws on a daily basis and remind us of who we can never be. Negativity comes in many forms. The harsh words create insecurities that we try to hide behind a mask. We become ashamed of who we are because of the world or what others say about us. In time, we start to believe the lies. The words become truth, and we change our personality or career paths to feel wanted and loved.
The truth is, God knows all our insecurities as women. Psalm 139 says that God has searched our hearts and minds, and He know everything about us. He knows when we are sitting and when we rise. He knows our every thought. He even knows what we will say next (vs. 1-6). He is a God of All-Knowing (Omniscience of God).
Women tend to have common insecurities in physical appearance, sexuality, career, money, education, and life in general. What and who we believe we are sometimes come from the lies of the world, others, and ourselves. This week we are talking about being honest with ourselves. There will be steps on how to remove the mask of lies and be true to who we are created to be.
1) Physical Appearance
- Physical appearance can be age, weight, body, and hair. Women see models in magazine who have the perfect body and doesn’t ever seem to age. Let’s be reminded that every photo in a magazine has been photoshopped to have the perfect body image. On social media we have filters that will perfect our physical appearance to our desire. We live in a world that says we have to have the perfect body to fit in. The world and the people around us wants us to conform to their ways. Let’s face it, their demands are unrealistic and shameful. In the Bible, it tells us we are made in God’s image. Our Creator made us in His perfection (Genesis 1:27). Everything God created is good. (Genesis 1). God sees us as good! He is proud of His masterpiece. Psalm 139:14 declares we are “fearfully and wonderfully made” (NIV). Let’s stop putting ourselves down by our negative thoughts and let’s start loving on ourselves. One way to start thinking positive is to start a “positive thinking jar.” Each week write something nice about yourself and place it in the jar. Every time you have a negative thought cross your mind, open the jar and read a note from yourself.
- As women, we want to be attractive to men. Much of our confidence is through encouragement and feeling loved by a significant other. We desire to be wanted and touched. So many women are single these days. They feel alone and unloved. Singleness is not a label. It does not mean you are not loved. Married or not, God loves us unconditionally. We feel His touch by simply being in His presence. He is our first love. We are attractive to an All-Mighty God who created us to be in His image. So the next time you feel unattractive or unloved, remember God is attracted to you.
- We all want to be successful in our careers. This is not just a desire in men. Women want to have an important role in their families. In today’s world, it is not uncommon for women to work and children in day care. Many women have Ph.D’s and have big careers. Back in the day, you would see women as at-home-mom’s only. There was no option to work on the field as women. They were responsible for bearing children, keeping the house clean, laundry, and cooking. Now, please do not misunderstand me. At-home-mom’s are to be celebrated. They stay home with the children, with no adult conversations or contacts for over 10 hours a day, so the husband can provide for the family. It is an honorable position to have so no one should put down a wife and mother staying home with their children. Whether we decide to get a college education, a career away from home, or be a stay at-home-mom, we are all doing a job that matters. We are all responsible for someone or something. I encourage you to be proud of what you do and find joy in all things.
4) Life In General
- So many of us look at our lives as mundane. We do the same thing every day — work, school, home, children, family, cook, clean, laundry, etc. We see nothing exciting in our lives. As women, we allow the negative thoughts to make us feel like a maid or just worth nothing. We think that we do the things that no one else wants to do. There is some truth to that, but not completely true. We do those things, because we have a family to take care of. We are made to put others first before ourselves. We are selfless beings who love catering to others whom we love. So, how do we spruce up our lives with so much responsibility? Leave the dishes in the sink overnight and spend time with family and friends. Make a point to do something fun and affordable several times a month to get out of house. I encourage you to create a life filled with more adventure and outings with your family. You can create a life that you always wanted within your means.
So, what will it take for you to be honest with yourself and starting talking better about yourself? Will you see a new perspective on your career choice and live with more joy? Will you see life with excitement and not just a mundane life?
Women tend to believe a lie about themselves, no matter if it came from their own insecurities or the world. We are sensitive to the negative words that are spoken over us and a lie feels like a truth. I encourage you to look towards the Word for who you are and not focus on the world’s point of view or someone’s opinion. As long as we do not believe the lie, it will never become an insecurity in our lives.