Every day we make choices to either react or respond to situations. We all have a choice to determine who or what is in control. When we react to a situation we allow someone or something to have control over our emotions and thoughts. When we respond to a situation we stay in control and assess the situation with logic. We evaluate the problem and figure out the best way to handle the issue.
Yesterday my car battery died. I remember looking at my phone realizing it was after 5:00 p.m. and most places are closed. I took a moment to process the problem and called for help. While I was waiting, I contacted automotive places to see if they could replace the battery that evening. I received a yes to my request and drove to AutoZone as soon as my car was jumped. Within an hour, I had a new battery in my car and on my way to church for Bible Study.
Imagine if I reacted rather than responded. More than likely, I would have hit the palm of my hand on the steering wheel and became frustrated and angry. I would have started crying and waited longer to call for help. I would have been too emotional for someone to understand my need. And, I would not have had a new battery that night, because I waited too long to call the automotive places.
Responding to a conflict takes thought. It allows you to see the big picture and not allow the emotions to override your logic. You are more productive and time saving when you assess the problem before reacting. You set goals for yourself, and you use your knowledge to get to the end result quicker.
Reacting to conflict wastes time and energy. It is an unproductive emotion that causes you to be overwhelmed with your thought process. You can easily jump to conclusions and have poor communication to ask for help. Reacting causes you to respond immediately without thinking about the consequences of your emotions and actions. You live in the moment rather than find a solution.
Do you react or do you respond? If you react to situations, what was the end result? Did you deal with the consequences of your actions? I encourage you to be aware of how you respond to conflict, and how you can better handle a situation. Life is filled with unpredictable circumstances, but we all can take control of the situation and make the best of it.