HOW TO RESPOND TO SOMEONE WHO IS HURTING
When people are hurting we sometimes overuse Christian statements to make them feel better. We tend to say, “God has your back”, “Keep your chin up”, “You are blessed”, and so forth. At times, these statements are appropriate. But, other times, these statements do not help those who are hurting. They are just words with no emotion and meaning.
We need to remember to listen instead of trying to give advice all the time. We need to listen to the person’s words, and why he or she feels that way. We do not need to make others feel that their feelings do not matter. Sometimes all they need is a hug, a prayer, and a friend to talk to in a time of need.
“IT’S OKAY NOT TO BE OKAY”
In a previous church I attended, the motto was, “it’s okay not to be okay.” It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be upset. It’s okay to ask why. Sometimes it just does not make sense, and we want answers. We want the chaos to stop. We want to silence our thoughts. We are overwhelmed and want to run the other direction.
THE IMPORTANCE OF FINDING HOPE THROUGH THE TEARS
The truth is, we cannot stay in that state for a long period of time. We have to continue to lean on God for comfort and peace. We have to continue believing in hope. We have to constantly pray, through the tears, that God has a plan for our lives. And then one day, you realize you do not hurt as much as you used to. You are not thinking about the situation as much. God is at work in your life to heal your pain and loss.
APPLICATION AND PRAYER
If you are going through a difficult time, I encourage you talk to someone about it. Find someone who you trust and who will listen to you. I pray that you find God’s peace in your circumstances. I encourage you to cry in God’s arms and allow Him to carry you through this hardship. And, always remember, “it’s okay not to be okay.”